Harriet Lerner, relationship expert and psychotherapist, didn’t start off as a best selling author. In fact, quite the opposite. In her Topeka Kansa home, she sat in long years of frustration, sorrow, and wanting to give up, hunched over her gray typewriter (computers weren’t around yet) with scissors and scotch tape as her cutting-and-pasting editing tools.

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Maybe you’ve experienced this before: you set out with good intentions – being kind to your mom, having patience with your child, being kind and accepting of people in your life, committed to meditation every day, enjoying the mundane like washing the dishes or mowing the lawn, but something happens.  Instead, you find yourself saying something reactive and

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I was wandering from my campsite on the Big Sur coast, crossing Highway 1 to take in the sunset before settling in for the night, when I saw someone walking the highway with a backpack. I couldn’t help myself. I asked, “Are you backpacking Hwy 1?” He replied, “Well, ya! I was hiking the Pacific

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I finished some gentle yoga on the floor of the cabin, being careful to not irritate my already painful hips. When I sat up, the words came through loud and clear, like a church bell on Sunday morning, “You need to leave the retreat.” I began to sob. “NO, NO, NO!” I yelled back at

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Six months ago, while spending a few days at a cabin in Big Sur, California, I had complete clarity that this was the cabin I’d spend a month meditating and in silence in the spring of 2016. I’d been knowing it was time for this length of retreat for awhile, but I wasn’t sure where

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Coming off the holidays, as you know, new year’s resolutions make headline news. But who really follows them? And why do we make them in the first place? For two reasons – one because we want to start the new year on the “right foot,” and two because somewhere inside, we’re punishing ourselves for the

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Winter Solstice is a fantastic time to stop and reflect on your life – what you want to let go of and what you want to create. The Winter Solstice, in ancient traditions, marks the shortest day of the year. Beacuse we turn from dark to light, the day can be a powerful day of

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Holidays can often be a time of incredible stress (not always) – getting things wrapped up at work to leave for 4 days, packing, travel, or cleaning the house and shopping for numerous guests, or if your single and far from family, the impending feeling of loneliness that can come around the holidays. In personally

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Five weeks ago something totally unexpected happened… I had been doing my usual 4-6 hours a week on the computer, with one particular week closer to 10 hours, when suddenly my body said “no more.” Meaning, any time on the computer or phone (technology), I now get physically ill – nausea, increased heart rate, head

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I recently watched a documentary called Happy. I absolutely loved it and highly recommend it. There are also many books out now to read about it and science has embraced it as something worthy of research. Love that too. Life is full of the unexpected. I mean, ultimately we’re not in charge. And yet, we

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