Last night I was sitting on my couch drinking my favorite tea – ginger with lemon and honey, thinking about what inspiration I wanted to share with you today.
This old, familiar voice said quietly, “You don’t have anything to share. Who’s going to read it anyways?”
I turned my head sideways and took another sip of tea.
Then the old, familiar sinking feeling in my chest crept in.
THAT feeling – you know the one that comes with those kinds of thoughts about yourself?” It feels like you just took a bottle of “I’m shit, and no one loves me” pills.
It’s not a feeling I experience much anymore, but that old, familiar voice likes to have a say every once in a while. So I let her… but not for long.
I got up from the couch, and decided it was time to tell her differently. That she’s not running the show in my head anymore, even though I love her as well.
So I walked over to the biggest mirror in my house and looked at myself squarely in the eyes and said out loud, “You are fabulous. You are loved. You have so much to offer,” and smiled.
End of sentence. I repeated in 10 more times. The sinking feeling in my chest disappeared.
You can be your own worst enemy or your own best friend. You get to decide every moment of every day of your life. The latter is way more fun and enjoyable.
I get it though – that it’s not easy to be your best friend. For most of us, the voice of doubt, fear, judgments, and beliefs has been a lot stronger and louder than the voice of love, compassion, kindness, and care.
Here’s the good news though – you can make the kind voice get louder, and the critical voice get softer. Really – it’s possible. I’ve done it and so can you.
It’s really about believing that it’s possible first and believing in yourself and what you’re capable of. If you don’t know what you’re capable of (as most of us aren’t), then think about one thing you do really well and that you love, and start from there.
Here are 5 tips I practice daily that I recommend to believing in yourself.
But first, check out this quick video tip on self-love – I share my favorite quote from the Buddha with you!
- Be clear on what you’re intention is. What do you want to believe about yourself? Is it that you’re loving, talented, beautiful, loved, skilled, gifted? You get to name it. Write it down right now and post it on your mirror so you see it every time you walk into the bathroom (even if you don’t believe it yet).
- Notice when the critical thought is happening and what it feels like in your body. Your body will wake you up to what is happening in your mind. Take a breath and remind yourself of your intention.
- Have faith. There’s nothing like seeing yourself as part of something greater to enhance your sense of self-worth. As long as you believe you’re separate and isolated from everything around you, that is what you’ll feel. Whatever entity or god you want to embrace, embrace it. It will radically change how you see yourself and the world.
- Your thought creates your reality. Say affirmations DAILY. No exceptions. An affirmation is something stated as if it were true. Go back to what you wrote down from #1, and say it to yourself as you’re driving your car, buying groceries, picking up the kids, sending an email, or out in nature – ANY part of your day is a great time to say it. Say it every day until it becomes second nature, and then continue to say it, as the critical voice likes to have her/his way at times when you’re inattentive.
- Stay true to your intention. When you fall off the wagon, get back on. This takes time, patience, and practice. And most of all kindness with yourself over and over and over again. DO NOT GIVE UP. How you see yourself directly relates to creating your passions, dreams, desires, or goals.
I can’t recommend enough how helpful it is to have guidance and support with this. When someone else believes in you, it gives you the courage to believe in yourself.
Categories: Feminine Power, Health & Happiness, Inner Wisdom & Intuition