How You Can Be Truly Free

I spent much of my life being free – free to play, free to choose where I went to school, free to work, free to own a home, free to travel, free to drive a car, and free to dress how I wanted.

Yet I wasn’t free. 

Nelson Mandela was imprisoned for 27 years and was more free than I was while he was in prison. 

Because I wasn’t truly free. He was.

Here’s the difference.

I wanted to be right. I held on to “wrongs” I thought others did toward me. I sat in fear, and believed the fear. I held on to what I believed with total identity. I was attached to my identity. I could not see another way. I didn’t know there was another way – because I was right – about everything…  I resented. I resisted. I even hated sometimes.

It didn’t bring me freedom. I was actually in a box of my own making. A tight box made of iron and solder. It had a big pad lock on the door. My heart was behind the gate. I pretended to be someone I wasn’t. I said things I thought others would like me for instead of what I really wanted to say. I kept my mouth shut most of the time.

In Michael Singer’s The Untethered Soul, he calls this the cage. It’s the cage we live in until we realize it’s not bringing us what we want – peace, deep connection, an open heart, living our true calling, fulfillment.

Only when we realize we’re in a cage, do we start to do something about it.

Perhaps you can relate to what I’m talking about. Do you find yourself in a cage of your own making? It’s hard to see sometimes because it’s the only reality we know. Until we realize we don’t know. We don’t know what we don’t know. Then we get a taste of freedom, a moment of peace, and spot of true joy.

We begin to wake up. There’s no mistaking it.

It’s true freedom.

In the Buddhist practice of Loving Kindness, there is a line that says, “May I and all beings be free from suffering, and the causes of suffering.”

This is exactly what it’s referring to – freedom from attachment, freedom from resistance, freedom from right and wrong, freedom from resentment and hatred, freedom from reactivity, freedom from fear, freedom from limiting beliefs, and freedom to love with an open heart.


Nelson Mandela knew this in prison. He lived in a concrete cell, but his mind and heart were free.

I see it so clearly when a client has a breakthrough the “cage.” There’s a shift, a new reality that unfolds, and they often say, “I feel liberated, lighter, like I just released something big.”

I feel free now. I feel it in my heart, my head, and my entire being. I feel free to love, free to sing, free to dance, free to speak my truth, free to listen to my intuition, free to create a business that resonates completely with me, free to say I’m sorry, free to forgive, free to see “the grey area” of life, free to enjoy a sunset, free to be present with death, free to take a nap without guilt, and free of fear of being me.

You can be free. It’s a choice. Here’s how:

  • Have the willingness to see yourself and life in a new way “The miracle comes from the shift in perspective.” ~ A Course in Miracles
  • Cultivate the courage to walk into your fears, instead of letting them stop you.
  • Stay true to your dreams, stop staying where it’s comfortable.
  • Forgive. There’s no greater path to peace.

Here’s to your freedom. As each of us becomes free, it lays the foundation for others to become free. I believe in you.

Categories: Heart Centered Living

About the Author: Angela Patnode

My passion, my calling, is for you to be totally you. Through private coaching, in-depth retreats, and online group coaching programs, I help you tap into your intuition and clarify your desires and vision, I guide you to take active steps toward making your desires a reality.

4 comments to “How You Can Be Truly Free

  1. Eric Bair

    Nice one Angela. Have a tango on the beach for me.

    1. Robin

      Such pertinent, important reminders, Angela, about the true nature of freedom. I’ve certainly had glimpses on this meditative spiritual path, and want to experience it even more. It’s so liberating to let go of limiting thoughts of self, others, life… Such doors it can open, and yet it can be so easy to return to the old beliefs too, even though they don’t serve us well. I admire you so much for truly stepping out there in your dreams and intuition, Angela. I’ve never know anyone who listens to their heart as much as you do. You continue to be an inspiration to me, even long after our first contact by phone long ago. Even as Emma and I ascended Saddle Peak yesterday I thought of the pictures and comments you sent about your ascent awhile ago. I hadn’t thought I could make it up there before that, so thanks for the encouragement! It was indeed an exhilarating experience and great mother/daughter bonding time before she heads back to college tomorrow.

      May your heart continue to be open on your journey to Oregon and California. You spread light wherever you go. Keep shinin’!

      1. Angela Patnode

        I’m so happy for you Robin, and the insights you’ve had. You’re on a beautiful path of awakening – there’s nothing else in life that compares. Stay true to your path, let go each day to expectations, and live from compassion. Love to you!

    2. Angela Patnode

      Thanks Eric – I will!

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