One thing I know is that every human being wants happiness. On some level. Whether it’s conscious or not.
You want happiness. I want happiness.
Yet it seems like an illusion. Life has challenges. The kids are rowdy, you’re late for work, you’re stressed about money, your spouse doesn’t want to connect, you want your dad to be different than he is, your cat dies, the dishes are piled up in the sink…
Yet, there is the underlying yearning to be happy.
What if you could be happy in spite or in relation with all of the above happening? What if you saw it differently than how your mind sees it now?
From my experience, there are 2 types of happiness: the kind that comes from external circumstances and experiences, and the kind that comes from a shift in perspective and internal experiences of the mind and heart.
The external is fleeting, illusory, transitory. It comes and it goes, yet we hold on, wishing the happiness to stay from having a clean sink, or what we believe is enough money. Yet it flows through our fingertips like water, gone again to the next external source of happiness we search for.
The internal source comes when we see the dirty sink as o.k. – that it’s not bad it’s dirty – that it’s something to attend to, but not something that will take away from happiness.
Or when the beloved pet or loved one dies, that it’s what’s happened (feeling the sadness as part of it).
The more you open to WHAT IS, the deeper your well of happiness becomes.
This is Truth.
So where can you find your resistance to WHAT IS and what’s defining your happiness?
Look to the “If only” statements in your mind. Meaning, what does your mind say should be different about you, others, work, school, friends, home, spirit, life?
“If only the kids didn’t fight.”
“If only he didn’t die.”
“If only the house was clean.”
“If only my mom was nicer, or stronger.”
“If only my shoulder weren’t injured.”
The mind can go on and on. So what I want you to do right now is write down as many “If only” statements you can think of that are going on in your mind.
Then cross out the “If only” part and re-word the sentence so it says, “My shoulder is injured.” “The house is dirtier than I like.” “He/she is passed, and I’m sad about it.”
You are practicing stating the Truth of WHAT IS, instead of rejecting it. This alone will increase your happiness 90%. I guarantee it. Because it changes how you think about yourself, others, and life.
What is one “If only” statement you want to actively work on seeing differently today?
This is the practice of transformation. It doesn’t happen all at once, but in several moments over time.
There are other important factors that greatly contribute to an under current of happiness such as forgiveness, gratitude, an open heart, and mindfulness, but that will be saved for another blog post!
Will you take a stand for your happiness today?
To have a major breakthrough with this in one weekend – take the More to Life Weekend happening Nov. 7-9 in Bozeman, MT. It’s worth flying in for or driving great distances to get to – especially if you live locally, there’s no reason not to. You have nothing to lose accept resentment, limiting beliefs, “if only” statements, lacking mentality, anxiety, fear, etc. The payoffs to taking this weekend are HUGE!
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