The relationship with yourself is THE most precious, important, life changing relationship to cultivate. I know, I’ve experienced both: being my own worst enemy and now, my own best friend – every day.
It’s also the foundation of your happiness. I’m not exaggerating – it really is.
I use to believe my nose was too big, my hair was too thin, and I was too tall. I dreaded looking in the mirror, I hid behind baggy clothes, and I wished I was smarter.
You may be able to relate, only you have different body parts that aren’t “perfect.”
What’s actually True? You probably know – you’ve seen pictures of me or know me in person. Do you have that perception of me? My guess is no, and I don’t anymore either.
Watch this 3 min. Dove commercial gone viral to really understand what I’m talking about (it’s gone viral because it speaks right to the heart of the matter):
•••Don’t skip watching this. It’s really powerful and a true blue change in the marketing world.
Now when I look in the mirror, I see the beauty that is there “Wow, you look awesome today!” I’ll say to myself. Or if an old internal gremlin comes up of “I suck at this…” I take a deep breath and say to myself, “No you don’t, you can do this.”
First, know that it takes time to create a healthy relationship with yourself.
Second, know that you are beautiful inside and out just as you are – I’m speaking to the men here too.
Your perceived inadequecy is created because you are comparing yourself with everyone around you, what the news, commercials, magazines, and movies say is “perfect,” and your own beliefs around how you “should” be.
Here’s the thing: By truly accepting and loving yourself just as you are – in body, mind, and personality, you are free to truly love the people in your life. You are free to be yourself because you are no longer self-conscious or feel inadequate about your looks, your laugh, your body, or your intelligence (to name a few).
And when you are free to love the people in your life and be yourself, you feel happy. Others don’t make you happy – YOU make you happy.
Here’s some pointers for having a killer relationship with yourself:
- Look in the mirror every day, and say to yourself, “I love you” – (start small here by just looking in the mirror into your eyes – be gentle)
- Notice judgments you have about yourself in regards to your body, your mind, or your personality, then take a deep breath, and say “It’s o.k., I’m o.k.”
- Say an affirmation every day such as, “I accept and love myself as I am.” And repeat for the next several months or years – however long it takes to change the belief pattern in your mind.
- Do something really loving toward yourself like a hot bath, buy yourself flowers, a beautiful dress or nice slacks – a true gift to yourself – YOU are perfect AS YOU ARE.
This stuff really works, I know, I did it. It took 2 years, but I did it. Over and over and over again…. You can too.
p.s. To fully embrace and love all of you, contact me for a free 30 min. session to find out how we can work together to make this happen.
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